Years back, Robert and I also collaborated on tale about men’s and women’s pubs.

Offered our diametrically compared methods to work — him sculpting phrase by phrase, me personally planning to blurt a messy draft out then return back and tinker — it is magic we didn’t visited blows.

Our research had been “dating” one another — Robert dragging me into gay watering holes (he had been careful to select pubs he didn’t regular, lest we cramp their design), me strutting him into lesbian spots. A few weeks ago, he said he’d reread the storyline and thought it had been actually bad — small tips, clunky prose. And seeking it over, I’d to agree. Nevertheless, Robert, you had been the most useful child date we ever endured. — Alisa Solomon



The following is our last top ten:

1. A kiss while watching Blue Willow to ensure that all of the global globe would understand.

2. Trading marriage rings over pastrami.

3. A condo with green carpeting and red walls that people knew we’re able to make our very own.

5. A bathtub high in kittens and William meowing to be noticed.

6. Our anniversary that is first, and a tree that is growing.

7. A cool February time in Berlin looking for art and coping with snow and combat that is torn-up.

8. March 26, 1993: City Hall, domestic partnership, and a stressed bride.

9. The Statue of Liberty — a kiss salt and— and pepper shakers.

10. My birthday celebration this when you struggled to light a candle and carry the cake yourself year.

And undoubtedly viewing you as you slept for 2204 evenings. You know what? We nevertheless do.

“Always on my brain. ” Perry



HOW CAN ROBERT DIE — and keep me personally to view Nixon’s funeral alone? Well sup­plied with a lot of cigarettes, take-out eats, and gallons of caffeinated beverage, and sharing a loathing that is mutual the unexpectedly sanctified former prez, Robert, their enthusiast Perry, and I also could have possessed a ball together with his send-off. In the end, aided by the possi­ble exceptions associated with the endless Menendez boys’ courtroom drama as well as the Tonya & Nancy variety show, this is the television occasion regarding the period: Five-Presidents-and-First-La­dies-Five and Bob Hope, politicians galore and a number of inexpensive crooks (often one plus the exact same), while the incomparable Spiro Agnew. Oh, the way the bile might have mingled with unbridled laughter even as we re­acted to any or all that pathetic posturing and cant, as well as Senator Dole’s Emmy­-worthy little breakdown at the finish of their eulogy. After which we’d have dedicated to the crucial material: Barbara Bush’s K­-Marche faux pearls, the Carters’ seeming dyspepsia, and whether Alexis Carrington Colby, oops, i am talking about Nancy Reagan has received another lift.

To not dis Tricia’s and Julie’s grief, but­oh that is— please! — their pop music was indeed planning their last farewell as an important television comeback special ever I would have relished it — as yet another great TV event that added to the structure upon which we built and nurtured our friendship since he split quick from the White House back in ’74, and that is exact­ly how Robert and Perry and. For most­ly, within the last 15 years (sufficient reason for Perry additionally working the remote since ’88), Robert and I also viewed tv. At least one time a week and, dependent on the thing that was on, often so much more frequently — we went up to Robert’s (after which Robert and Perry’s) apartment; I became house — you understand, the area where you stand constantly welcome. And although we chewed over anything from our personal work to most of the present dilemmas and gossip, our main task had been tv, plenty of it, the whole thing — the news headlines, Mary Tyler Moore reruns, several years of Dynasty, tennis, fig­ure skating, Murphy Brown, election re­turns, lousy dramas, honors programs, and, first and foremost, beauty pageants. We took all of it in, savoring the purest moments — Sue Sim­mons and Al Roker, such a thing from Delta Burke’s delirious Suzanne Sugarbaker, the self-referential brilliance associated with the final New­hart — and commenting upon, twisting, spitting straight right back, and otherwise manipulating all the remainder for the very very own function: good con­versation. And possibly it absolutely was simply a reason become together.

My personal favorite television memory is of the beauty pageant many years ago, for which a contestant was expected something such as: In one hundred years, that do you believe is going to be considered the essential influential girl associated with twentieth century? That has been precisely the form of thing we delighted in — and took dead really. After much laughter that is hysterical the contestant’s response — Babs Bush (then very First Lady) — we first needed to deconstruct issue. Just What is the optimum solution to be able to win the contest? Just just just What is the right answer? Probably the most im­pressive? The absolute most clever? Eleanor Roose­velt had been the obvious answer — too apparent, we decided. Then Perry popped in with Madonna. We liked that, but nah. We thought hard and created Anne Frank. Ooh, they liked that. Impressive option. After which, a short while later, Robert looked up, eyes twinkling, and stated defini­tively, “Lucy Ricardo. ” Ever the thoughtful, deliberate journalist, he had worked it through. And, needless to say, he had been appropriate.

Nevertheless now, missing Robert, lacking him ter­ribly, we find our alternatives somehow ironic. For while Perry and I also have constantly continued together in a manner that just might think of Lucy and Ethel or, to change to my medium of expertise — Donna summertime and Barbra Streisand carrying on in Enough is sufficient — Robert, well, Robert really had significantly more than a little bit of Anne Frank in him. Both in their work — being a movie theater critic and particularly as a journalist documenting the horrors of AIDS plus the battle for homosexual liberties — and his life that is personal first seemed when it comes to good in other people, for the good and also the feasible. He could possibly be angry or cynical(cf. Nixon), but he had been basically a sort, ample man whom did their damnedest. And like way too many of this TV shows that are best — state, I’ll Fly Away — Robert had been canceled too quickly. Oh, Robert, we never ever surely got to state, “Hi, Roz! ” — Jim Feldman